bianji | summer 

jinri，youzhangguimeizhenshishijigaibiandedianying《wobenshigaoshan》shangying。chushengyu1957nian6yuedezhangguimeizhagenbianjiangjiaoyuyixian40yunian，2008nian，tachuangbanlequanguodiyisuoquanmianfeinvzigaozhong「yunnanlijianghuapingnvzigaojizhongxue」。

zaitadedailingxia，12nianlai，xuexiaoleijibangzhu1800duomingpinkunnvhaiyuanmengdaxue，chuangzaoledashanlide“jiaoyuqiji”。neixieconghuapingnvgaozouchudenvhaizimen，yebuzaiyouyudashanyijiao，yongyoulezijiderensheng。

tamenyoudechengweilejingcha，shouhuyifangpingan；youdechenglelaoshi，jieguolejiaoshuyurendezhongren；yeyourenxuanzechengweiyimingquanzhitaitai，suiranzheijianshicengzaiwangluoshangyinqiguobuxiaodebolang……danwulunruhe，meiyiweinvhaizidouzoushanglexinderenshengzhilu。

zhenzhengdenvxingliliangshizenyangde？huiwangnvxinglaishizhilu，yifangmian，xinyidainvxingdedaolegenghaodejiaoyu，jieshoulegengduoyuanjiazhiguandesuzao，yeyongyouleshixianziwodekenengxing。danlingyifangmian，shehuiduinvxingdeyaoqiuyeyuelaiyuegao，zaiyalidecengcengjiamazhixia，nvxingzaiziwoshenfenjiqitajiaosezhijiangengjiananyipingheng。

mianduijudadesixiangchongtu，dangdainvxinggairuheshixianjiazhi。jiyuci，tophertetuichubenqi「nvxingjiazhizhilu」，xiwangweisuoyounvxingdailaiyisiqifa。

PART 1 重估女性价值

zainimenjia，sheizuofan，sheizhaoguhaizi，sheishuamatong？niruhezouxiangwaimiandeshijie？ruguonizaiwaigongzuo，sheizaijialini？kanwanzheixiewenti，nisihuhuifaxianwulunshishenmeyangdenvxing，zonghuiyouneimeyike，rengranbeikunzaishehuisuodingyide“nvren”shenfenzhizhong。

nvxingderichangshenghuobeihuaiyun、liuchan、hunli、jiatingbaoli、zangli、shengbingdehaizihexuefeidasui。buyaohuaiyi，zheishiquanshijienvrendeneixieshiqing，buguannideshehuishenfenruhe。

zhandijizhemeigen·sitakehuaiyunqianzaiafuhancaifangkongbufenzi，zaiyilakejingliqiangzhan，zainanaosaitiduoguodaodanxiji……muduwushuzhanzhengdeta，huaiyunhouquefaxianzijishenxianjiatingweiji：tabudebuzaizhaoguyingerhezuojia wuzhong“huangfeishiye”，erzhangfuquenenghaobufeilidihuidaocongqiandeshenghuo。buyuanzaichenmozhongtuoxierangbu，tajiangbijianduizhunjiating，zhuiwenyueryujiawuweihezongbeiguiwei“nvrendeshi”。

yushi，tajiangsuosisuoxiangningjiechengwei《nvrendeshi》，congzaizhichanghengchongzhizhuangdedulinvxing，daokunshoucanpanyuniaobudejujiamama，chengweimuqinposhisitakelijienvxingdezhenshichujing。tayirijibandeqinmiyutanlvfenxiangfenmiandequzhe、zhaoguxinshengerdejifeigoutiaoyuchanhouyiyudezhixitiyan，jiangshuyiweixinshoumamaruheyibaomuweijiumingdaocao，zaiyingerdekunaoyuwujindejiawuzhongxunhuiziwo。

zaizhongguoheyindushengxialianggeerzihou，shidangdibaomupeibansitakezouguolezuijiannandewunian。zaiyuzhongguo“ayi”heyindubaomugongdudeshangqiangeriyezhong，tadongchadaozijiduitamenyilaiyuzhipei、xinrenyushulibingcundeweimiaoqinggan，yeyishidao，zijidejietuoyiyibufennvxingyuanlihaizi、kunshouguzhujiazhongweidaijia。

sitakerenwei，jiawuzheizhongwuchubuzaideshenglixuqiu，yizhizuaizhenvxingdefazhan，rangnvxingbaochijianmo。zaixinlatucaonvxingshehuijiaosedebugong，benshuxinitanchenshengyudailaideshenxinxishua，kanchengyibuzainiaobuheshimianzhongxunhuiziwodehuiyilu。

zheigegushiyeguanyumeigechengweimuqinhouyiranxiangyaozishiqilidenvren，tongyangdegushizaiquanshijiezhongfufasheng。zuihou，zuozhezhichu，“nvrendeshi”yingyounvrendingyi，zhonggumeiyidihanshuidejiazhi，zheicaishinvrendeshi。

benshutongguoyichangtongkuertanchengdediaocha，yongganxiankailezhaozainvxingshenghuozhenxiangzhishangdemubu，xiwangsuoyounvxingjinanxingkanwanhounenggouyousuoganwu。

图片来源：新经典文化

荐书：《女人的事》

zuozhe: [mei] meigen·sitake

译者: 詹涓

chubanshe: wenhuichubanshe

chupinfang: xinjingdianwenhua

PART 2 找回女性价值

shenweimuqin，yiweizhezuoweiduligetidekongjianbeijiduyasuo。zaichengweimuqinzhihou，tajiukaishibeijiaozuo“xxmama”，yijizaiduonianhouyouchengweifuyang、jiaoyusunbeide“xxnainai”。“shiqumingzi”debeihou，zheshechunvxingzuoweigetishenfende“ziwo”hezuoweiguanxishenfende“muqin”zhijiandechongtu。

yifangmian，womenkandaonvxingyizhongzhongcelvelaijielibaoquanzijizaimuqinjiaosezhiwaideziwoshixian。xinyidainvxingdedaolegenghaodejiaoyu，shehuigengduoyuandejiazhiguan，yeweitamenshixianziwotigonglegengduokeneng。danyucitongshi，yangyuzerenzaixiaofeizhuyidaoxiangxiadecengcengjiama、“fuqin”dequexi、zhichangyalijiaju……doushinvxingzai“zuomuqin”haishi“zuoziji”zhijianganshoudaogengdadechongtu。

yinci，dangdainvxingzaizhichangshangsihudachengyizhonglegongshi——zaigongzuozhongyidingyaozhanshizijilixing、qiangda、kekongdeyimian，yinzangsuoyoudecuiruo、buanhuozheqingxu。zaizheizhongjiazhiguandeyingxiangxia，xiandainvxingzaizuomuqinzhihou，yinweituranyaochengshoujianxindeyangyugongzuo，kenenghuichanshenghenduofuzadeqingxu，zheixiebugoulixing、qiangda、kekongdeqingxurangxiandainvxinggandaocuobai，chanshengziwofouding。yourenshenzhirenwei，jiehunshengzihuizuainvxingchengweigenghaodeziji，zheiyeranghenduonvxingzaizuomuqinhouhennanrentongzijiyangyuhoudaidejiazhi。

chuantongwenhuahuijiangmuqinjiaoselixianghua，xiejimuqindeshuyedoushizaizhidaoyangyu，henshaoguanzhunvxingzaiyangyuzhongdexinlingkunjing。zheirangxiandainvxingzaishehuishangqueshaobiyaodejingshenzhichihejianyaqudao，zaixinlingshanggandaoguliwuyuan。

youlisa·maerjiyanuozhuanxiede《nvxingdeyingxiongzhilv》yishujiedulekunjingzhongdenvxingzaixinlinganyezhongmosuodemanzhanglicheng，tongguofenxilaiziquanshijie10yugeguojiade20duogeshenhuachuanshuo、jingdiantonghuaheyuyangushi，tanjiulezheixiegushizhonganhedenvxingxinlingchengzhangtiyan，huanxingnvxingrenkezishenqingxuhezhijuelidejiazhi，bingjiezhuxingbietezhizhaodaoyingduikunjingheyalidetujing。

zaibenshuzhong，zuozhelisa·maerjiyanuoba“ziwodexiaoshi”miaoshuweinvxing“zhuiluo—douliu—huigui”zhongdeyihuan。taweinvxingzuoweidulidegetifasheng，qiangdiaolenvxinggetichengzhangdezhongyaojiazhi。zuozhezhichu，weibeixiandaishehuirenkedenvxingtezhigengxiangshiyikoushenjing，zaishencenglianjiezhenvxingdeliliangzhiyuan，jishifangmuqindeziwo，xuyaoshehuiduixingbiepingdengyougengjinyibuderenshi。

lingyifangmian，zaihenduomamayanzhong，haizidaibiaoxinshengheweilai。tamentongguoshenshizishendeguowangjinglijiyishixingtai，jiangzishendekewangjijiazhijituoyuhaizishenshang，yimibutongnianyihanjigerendekewang。

benshushizhenduinvxingxinliliaoyudezhuanyeduben，shizuozheshushinianlaizhuanyejingyandeningjie，weiduzhetigongleyixilieyikaonvxingtezhishixianziwochengzhangdefangfa，rangyuedubenshudeguochengbianchengyichangnvxingxinlijiushuhechengzhangzhilv。

图片来源：湛庐文化

jianshu：《nvxingdeyingxiongzhilv》

zuozhe: [mei]lisa·maerjiyanuo

译者：黄天怡

出品：湛庐文化

chubanshe: zhongguofangzhichubanshe

PART 3 提升女性价值

suizhenvxingshoujiaoyuchengdudetisheng，yueduoyuedemuzhinantibaifangzailerenmenmianqian。

yigeshijiqian，shouguodaxuejiaoyudenvxingbixuzaishiyehejiatingzhijianzuochuxuanze，qiewangwangzhinengerzhezeqiyi；rujin，shouguodaxuejiaoyudenvxingshuliangdafuzengjia，tamenyongyoulegengduoxuanze，gengyoujihuitongshiyongyoushiyehejiating，danjianyushehuiguifan、gongzuoxingzhi、shijianyueshudeng，xingbiebupingdengwentijinguanburuguoquyanjun，queyirancunzai。

congguoqudaoxianzai，nvxingmianlinlenaxiejingkuangdezhuanbian，weilaiyougairuhegenghaodigaishan？jiyushushiniandekaichuangxingyanjiu，nuobeierjingjixuejianghuojiangzhekelaodiya·geerdingjiangzijideguanchazhuanxiechengwei《shiyehaishijiating》yishu。

benshujiang20shijichuzhijinshouguodaxuejiaoyudenvxingquntifenchenglewuzu，shenruyanjiuletamenzaishiye、hunyin、zinvdengfangmiandelixiangbaofuyuxianshizhongyudaodegezhongzuai，yijidaijideyanbianlicheng。geerdinganzhao“jiating”he“zhiye”zainvxingshengmingzhouqizhongbanyandejiaose，babutongniandaiyongyoubenkexuelidenvxingfenweiwuzu。

shouxiandiyizunvxingchushengyu1878－1897 nian，tamen1900－1920 niandaxuebiye，congqiyishengjinglilaikan，tamendezhongshengchengjiuzaisuoyouquntizhongzuicanchabuqi。

dierzunvxingxiangongzuozaichengjia，tamen1898－1923nianchusheng、1920－1945niandaxuebiye。zheizurenkaishijiehunlvjidi，danzuihouquejiehunyangyulehenduohaizi。

disanzunvxingxianchengjiazaigongzuo，tamenchushengyu1924－1943nian，zheiyizuquntidexiangsidubiqitarenheyizudougao。tamenzhanshileleisidebaofuhechengjiu，jiehunhenzao，youhaizidebilihengao，daxuezhuanyehediyifengongzuodouchabuduo。

disizunvxingxianliyezaichengjia，tamenchushengyu1944－1957 nian，20 shiji60niandaizhongqizhi70niandaimodaxuebiye。zheixienvxingmingxiancongqianbeidejinglizhongxiqulejiaoxun。zaihunyin、zinv、zhiyehejiuyefangmian，disanzuxiangdisizudezhuanbianshizheixiequntizhongzuiweixianzhude。

diwuzuzeshishiyeyujiatingjiangu。tamenchushengyu1958nianzhi1978nian，1980niankaishitamenluxucongdaxuebiye。zheizunvxingjuechadaoledisizudeshisuan，yushitamenxuangao，shiyejiangbuzaichengweijiatingdebanjiaoshi。

zaiyanjiuwanyishangquntihou，zuozherenwei，muqianguanyuxingbiebupingdengdekuaisujiejuefanganwangwangdouzhishicongnvxingfangmianrushou。danwulunshizhichangxingbiepingdeng，haishijiatingfuqigongping，doushejidengshideliangduan，suoyijiejuefangfayexuyaotongshicongdengshideliangduanrushou。lingwai，yinfashiyehejiatingxianghuquanhengdelingyigeyuanyinyugongzuoriyibiande“tanlan”mibukefen。

fuqi，youqishishoujiaoyuchengdujiaogaodefuqi，ruguojinxingfengong，yirencongshizhangshijian、buguilvdegongzuo，lingyirencongshijiaolinghuodegongzuobingchengdanqizhaoguzeren，neimetamendejingjizhuangkuangdatihuigenghao。danzheijiangdaozhifuqibugongpinghexingbiebupingdeng。

yinci，zuozhejucijichulewushidejiejuefangan，jibixujiaozhenggongzuozhidu，zhongxinpusheqianjindedaolu；tongshiyexuyaoxiaochufuqizhongdefengongbupingdeng。zhiyouyuelaiyueduorenkaishinulizhengqufuqigongping，zhengquyujiarengongdushiguang，nvxingcainengbeijinyibujiefangchulai。

图片来源：中信出版社

jianshu：《shiyehaishijiating》

zuozhe: [mei]kelaodiya·geerding

chubanshe: zhongxinchubanshe

fubiaoti: nvxingzhuiqiupingdengdebainianlvcheng

yizhe: yanjinyu / yanchaofan

PART 4 认可女性价值

“bujiehunshiwomendecuoma？！”“wokeshiquanlifendoudaojintiandeya。zaiyanjundejiuyexingshixiahaorongyizhaodaofengongzuo，yidianyididizhengmingziji，zhongyugandaoshoudaolerenkeshi，yinianguo30。neiduanshijiangenbenwuxiakaolvjiehun，yilukuangbiaozhijin……xinxiangyaobuhaishiqujiehunba，kezheigeshehuiquegaosuwo，40suidenvxingyijingmeirenkaolvle……”

zheihuoxushixuduo40suizuoyoudenvxingdexinsheng，womenzheidairen，zongganjuexiangshibeibaizaileyichang“haodadeshehuishiyan”deshiyantaishang，congjiuyebingheqidaojinrongweiji，xianglingpaozheyiyangzaiqianrencongweishezuguodechunvdishangbuguyiqiedifeiben，kuchengzhijin。fumubeizai40suiqianjiudaduojiuyidedaodedongxi，duiyuwomenlaishuo，yexuzhudingshishewang。

shenghuozhong，womenchangchanghuibeiwuxindiwenjijiemeijiehun，youmeiyouhaizi，chengshouzhezhouweirenlianmindemuguang。shenzhiyouderenshuoshenme“bujiehunshengziderenjiushimeijindaoshehuiyiwu，yingdangbeixuejiantuixiujin”。danzheizhendeshiwomendecuoma？

womenjiujingshiruhezaidahuanjingzhongyilumopagunda、shengcunzhijindeni？womendechuluyouzaihefang？zaiyugongchulinzhuanxiede《danshennvxing》zheibenshuzhongjiluxialedangdainvxingdezhengyan。

benshukaochadeduixiangshiribenbingheqijiuyeshidaizhongdenvxingqunti。zuozhegenju“feizhengshiyuangong”“zhongniannvrendexiangqin”“shenghuodejianxin”“hulinianlaodefumu”sigezhutiqucai，caifangleyuzijitongyinianlingceng、youleisijingyudeduoweinvxing。

yourenmingzhigongside“nulijiurangnizhuanzheng”shihuanghua，zhinengkaoziwomamulaijianchigongzuoderen；yourenshenglebingyexiangshoubudaogongsidefuli，zhinengyanzhengzhengshiye；yourenzhaodaolenanpengyou，queyinweiwufajieshouzijiyaoxianweitasongzhongdexianshierdatuitanggu；yourenzhuiqiuqinmiguanxiquejijingcuozhezuihoufangqi，juedingyumaoweibanduguozhongshen；yourenlikaiyuanshengjiating，lingzhedibaoguozheyouxieguduqueyoubufakaixinderizi；yeyourenjujuexiaofeizhuyiguoxie，bingzaicanyugonghuibangzhutarenweiquandehuodongzhongzhaodaoleguishugan……

tamenzainishajuxiadeshidaihongliuzhonghuochenhuofu，chengshoubingduikangzheribenshehuizhongduinvxingdezhongzhongyouxingwuxingdeqishi，yeweijiludangdaidongyashehuinvxingshengcunxianzhuangliuxialeyifenzhenguidezhengyan。ruguozheiyangdejinglinengchengweiyizhong“shengcun”fanli，duiniyousuobangzhu，neimeyejiangshiyijianlingrenxinweideshiqing。

图片来源：上海译文出版社

荐书：《单身女性》

zuozhe: [ri] yugongchulin

chubanshe: shanghaiyiwenchubanshe

yuanzuoming: feizhenggui danshen アラフォーnvxing 「shiわれたshidai」のjuewangとxiwang

译者: 汪诗琪

PART 5 改变女性价值

zaiquanlichang，nvxingdecanyuduyouduogaoni？jihuwei0。congmouzhongchengdulaikan，quanlidedingyibenshenjiuyijingjiangnvxingpaichuzaiwai。zaizheiyangdeqingkuangxia，neixieyijingzaizhengzhi、shangyelingyuzhongjiannanqudechenggongdenvxing，huoduohuoshaodouzaiwuyiyouyidibanyanyigenanxinghuadejiaose，dantamenneixintongshiyoupaichizheizhongbanyan。biru，magelite saqieerjiucengzhuanmenzuoguoshengyinxunlian，yirangzijiguanyuyigengdichendeshengxianjianghua，yinweiqiguwentuantirenweitanvxingdejianxisangyinbugouyouquanweigan。

chulezheixieshaoshujingyingnvxing，zairichangshenghuozhongdedabufennvxingyemianlintongyangdewenti，jitamendeshengyinzongbeihulve，shehuiduitamenderongcuolvyegengdi。weihehuichuxianzheiyangdewenti？quanliduinvxingdejienaduyouduogao？nvxingshifoukeyizhongxingoujiayigequanlishijieni？

mianduizheixiewenti，《nvxingyuquanli》dezuozhe——yingguozhuminggudianxuejiamali·bierdezuochulehuida。benshushoululebierdeliangpianguanyunvxingyuquanlideyanjianggao，taconglishishangdewenxuezuopinhexianshiqingjingzhongtiaoxuanleshugeanli，laijieshinvxingyuquanlideguanxishiruhezaiwenhuazhongbeigoujiande。tongshi，taduimuqianquanlidewenhuajiagoutichuzhiwen，zaigengshendecengmianshangyinfarenmendefansi。

bierdeyiqiruizhidetounaohexinladebidiaozhongtanxingbieyiti，tanxunle“yannvzheng”beihoudewenhuagenji，bingjiangtaolunyinxianggonggongchangyuzhongdenvxingshengyin、shehuiwenhuaduinvxingyuquanlizhiguanxideyushe，yijishaoshu“chenggong”nvxingjujuejiangzijiqianrunanxingmobanzhongdenuli。

bierdebenshenyecengjingliguozhenduinvxingdeqishihewangluoshangdexingbiegongji，zaiduizheixiegerenjingyandefansizhong，tatichuzheiyangyigewenti：ruguozairenmenderenzhizhong，nvxingzaiquanlijiagouligenbenjiumeiyouyixizhidi，neimenandaobushiquanlibenshenxuyaobeizhongxindingyima？tarenwei，wulunshihezhongwuyishijizhidaozhilezheiyidian，jiangnvxingshizhongpaichuzaiquanlizhiwai，doushijudadebuzhengyi；erqiewulunshizaijishu、jingjihaishishehuiguanhuailingyu，nvxingdecainengwufadedaochongfenfahui，duiwomenlaishuodoushinanyirongrendelangfei。

huiguguoqu，bierdezhichuzainvxinggongkaishengminglichangdeshihou，weitamenzijierzhandeshihou，gaoshengjihudeshihou，renmentongchanghuiyong“duoduobiren”，“diediebuxiu”，“kukutiti”dengciyulaixingrongnvxing。womenxuyaojijiaozheixiecuocima？dangranxuyao，yinweitamengouchengheqianghualeyizhongshehuiyanxixialaidesiweimoshi，taxiaojielenvxinghuayuzhongdequanwei、liliang，shenzhishiyoumogan。

ciwai，zheizhongmoshiyouxiaodijiangnvxingdeweizhizaicifanghuidaojiatinglingyuzhinei，tarangtamendeyanyuxiandewuzuqingzhong。xianzaideqingkuangyiranruci：dangrenmentingdaonvxingdesangyinshi，tamenbuhuijiangqitingchengyizhongjuyouquanweideshengyin，huanjuhuashuo，tamenmeiyouxuehuiruhecongnvxingsangyinzhongtingchuquanweixing。

ruhegaibianzheiyangdekunjuni？bierderenwei：”niwufajiangnvxingqingyizhiyuyigeyijingbeinanxinghuabianmadejiagouli，nibixugaibianjiagoubenshen“。 ergaibianjiagoubenshenjiuyiweizheyiquanranbutongdefangshilaisikaoquanli；yiweizhejiangquanlidedingyiyugonggongshengwangqiegekailai；yiweizhecongxietongyunzuodejiaoduqusikao，gengduodiqukaolvzhuisuizheerfeilingxiudeliliang；yiweizhejiangquanlidangzuoyizhongshuxing，shenzhishiyigedongci，erfeimourendesiyoucaichan。

zaibierdesuogouxiangdequanlidexindingyizhong，tashiyizhong“chanshengxiaoyong”、weishijiedailaimouzhonggaibiandenengli，yijibeirenzhenduidaidequanliyiyiwulunshizuoweigetihaishizuoweiyigezhengti。zheifenyaoyanyoulidexuanyan，rangwomenkandaonvxingyuquanlishimibukefende，yerangwomenkandaohuodequanlideguochengdaozuqiezhang，danzhiyaoxiangqian，jiukedida。

图片来源：后浪

jianshu：《nvxingyuquanli》

zuozhe：[ying] mali·bierde / mary beard

译者：刘漪

chubanshe：tianjinrenminchubanshe

出品方：后浪

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