wen | meirirenwushe linsongguo

编辑 | 姚璐

yunying | xiaolu xiaoerlang

2024nian6yue28ri，jingguosancishenyi，《zhonghuarenmingongheguonongcunjitijingjizuzhifa》zuizhongtongguo，jiangyu2025nian5yue1rizhengshishengxiao。zheishiyibu“qianhuwanhuanshichulai”defalv，tagongbuneitian，zaiquanguohenduodifang，henduonvxingshenyeweimian，tamenzaixiangxiang，xinfajiangruhegaibianzijidemingyun。

guoquzheixienian，nongcunfunvdetudiquanyi，chengleyigezongyouzhengyiquechichiwufajiejuedewenti。nongcunzaifazhan，zuoweiyigejitijingjizuzhi，tahuiyudaochaiqian、fenhong……erzuoweicunzhuanglidenvxing，changchangyindalingweihun、jiehun、lihun、sangoudengyuanyinbeiduoquan。2023nian8yue，yiweizhejiangnvxingdeweibobeizhuanfaguo2.6wanci——tayinyuwaidinanxingjiehun，chengle“chujianv”，yizhangbobodejiehunzheng，tashiqule120100yuandetudizhengyongkuan。

zheibufalv，shilishishangdiyicidui“heweinongcunjitijingjizuzhichengyuan”zuochuguiding：“funvxiangyouyunanzipingdengdequanli，budeyifunvweihun、jiehun、lihun、sangou、huwunanxingdengweiyou，qinhaifunvzainongcunjitijingjizuzhizhongdegexiangquanyi。”tadechutai，huoxuhuigaibianmouxiexianshi，rangshiquanzhededaojiuji。

linlixiashibeijingqianqianlvsuofunvtudiquanyixiangmudefuzeren，guoqu20duonian，zaibeijingbeisihuanyijianjuminlougaizaoerchengdebangongshili，tahetongshimenjiedaoguochaoguo3000weinongcunnvxingdeqiuzhu，jinjisuonengweitamenbenzou，danzuihounengshengsudenvxing，buzuyicheng。

zheishiyitiaomanzhang、jiannandedaolu。meirirenwucengquwangzhejiangheguangdong，jiandaolejiwei“chujianv”。tamenyoudexiangdangnianqing，gangyinweijiehunershiquletudibuchangkuan，yanlihaiyoubuganhezhengzheng；youdebeijiarenhecunzhuang“quzhu”，modemeilexinqi，wojuzaihunandechuzufangli；haiyoudezhuzaicunzhuangbianyuan，dangwomenzouzaicunli，tahuisuoqibozisongzhejian，xiaoxinyiyidiliuzhebianer。danxiangtongdeshi，tamendoujianxin，zijibuyinggaiyinweixingbieershiquan。

ruhejiangzheixiebugan，zhuanhuaweigaibianxianshideliliang？zheixienian，linlixiahetadetongshimenzuoledaliangdegongzuo，shitujianliyitiaogoutongtujing。tamenweijicengnvxingweiquan，yetongguodaliangdexinxi、shuju、ziliaoheyantaohui，jinliyingxiangjuececeng。tamenzaicunzhuangtuiguangjuyoupingdengshijiaodecunguiminyue，yeshitutongguodifangfayuanhefulian，gaibianjubudexiaoqihou。

2023nianchu，《zhonghuarenmingongheguonongcunjitijingjizuzhifa（caoan）》gongkaixiangshehuizhengqiuyijian，linlixiayuqianqianlvsuodetongshimen，diyishijiantijiaolexiugaijianyi，youshangwanrenzhuanfa。

zhihouwomenyigongjianguolinlixiasanci，fangtanchaoguo10xiaoshi，womenliaoqizhei20niantajianguodeneixienvxing，tamenderouruanyujueqiang，weilezhengququanyi，tamenzuoguonaxienuli，yijiweiraonongcunfunvtudiquandefazhixijie。

meicijianmian，linlixiajirendeyinxiangdoushihengdingde：tashoushoude，bangzhemawei，zaiwendubugaodebangongshiliguozheyurongfu，shouwoyibeicha。wulunwomentandaodeneirongruhejingxindongpo，rangrenfennuhuotanxi，tazongshixiandepingjing、jianding，shaoyoujiliedeqingxubiaoda。huoxuzhengshizheiyangyizhonghengdingdejingshenliliang，cainengzhichiyigeren、yigezuzhi，zaizheiyangyijianshiqingshangjianchi20nianzhijiu。

yixiashilinlixiadejiangshu：

不婚也失权，结婚也失权，离婚也失权

woshisichuanren，zuizaoshizailaojiadeyisuozhongxuezuoshengwulaoshi。zongshikandaobugongpingdeshiqing，jiuxiwangnengzouchulai，nengjiandegengduo。1995nianwolaidaobeijingxueyingyu，yeshihenouran，1997nian，yiweilaoshituijianwodaoqianqianlvsuo（dangshijiaobeidafaxueyuanfunvfalvyanjiuyufuwuzhongxin）gongzuo。wojuedezheigegongzuomanyouyiside，yishikeyibangzhunvxing，ershikeyilejieshehui，jiuliuxialaile。

zuichuwoshicongxingzhenggongzuozuoqi，bingzaizhidulefalvdeyanjiusheng，zhihoukaishixiezhulvshicanyuanjianbanli。zaizheigeguochengzhong，nihuikandaoshidaiyitibuduanbianhua：congfunvzhuixintaochoudenglaodongquandewenti，daolihunhaizifuyang、caichanfengedenghunyinjiatingwenti，zaidaojiatingbaoli、zhichangxingsaorao，zuihou，wokaishifuzenongcunfunvtudiquanxiangmu。

dagaishi2005nianzuoyou，jiuzaizheigebangongshi，congnanninglailejishigeren，doushichujianv。dangshitamenzhuangkuanghenbuhao，meidifangzhu，nanfangbajiaoyebushihendama？tamenjiukandianmaozhu、shugan，zaishangmiangaishangbajiaoye，zhefengdangyu，yijiarenjiuzheimeshengcun。dangshijirendezhenhanshitingdade。

2005nianshiyigebijiaozhongyaodeshijianjiedian。dangshichengshihuajinchengjiakuai，fazhandezaodeguangdong、guangxizheixiediqu，chujianvdejiufenyijingyoule，neiludiquchengzhenhuajianshekaishi，yeyoulezhengdi、chaiqiananzhiwenti，womenjiukaishijiedaolaiziquanguogedideqiuzhudianhua。tamenyoudeshikandaolemeitibaodao，youdeshikoukouxiangchuan，jiuzheimezhaoguolaile。

“chujianv”quntiqishishihendade，yinweiweihun、jiehun、sangou、lihun、zaihunersangshilequanlidenvxing，doukeyibeichengweichujianv——xianshijiushizheimedingyide——nimeijiehun，danzhiyaojialiyouerzi，nizhongjiudoushiyaochujiade；jielehun，nijiushuyufujiale；nisangoule，tamenyejuede，nikendinghuizaihun；lihunleyeshiyiyang。zongdelaishuo，nvxinghuiyinweihunyinerliudong，tamendequanli，yeyinweizheizhongliudong，erdebudaobaozhang。

gezhongshiquandeqingkuang，womendouyudaoguo：

meijiehunjiushiquande——zaihunanxiangtan，yougecundecunguiminyuejiuguiding，“nianman28zhousuideweihunnvxing，budecanyurenhefenpei”。cunliyougejiating，you3genverhe1geerzi，dangshidanveryijiehun，hukouweiqianchu，jiehunhoujiushiqulefenpeiquan；linglianggenver，man28suizhihou，yebeiquxiaoledaiyu。lianggexiaonverbufuqi，quqisu，fayuanhaipantamenshengsule，rangcunlibazhengdibuchangkuanjitamen，qishimeirenyejiuyiliangqiankuaiqian，dancunlijiushibuji。

dangshiwohewodetongshiquledangdi，womenjiuxiangzhidao，weishenmebuzhixing？cunlidezhanghu，guixiangzhencaizhengsuoguanli，womenjiuqucha，cunlidaodiyoumeiyouqian，faxianhutoushangqueshimeiqian，danyougechujianvfaxian，ei，zenmewomencunzheigerenhutoushangyou300wan？shijishang，cunliguyibaqiannuodaolezheirendezhangshang。womenjiugenxiangzhentan，weishenmebunengqiangzhizhixingni，xiangzhenjiushuo，zhiqiancunjitideganbudaizhehenduonanxingcunminlaiguole，tamenshuo，xiangzhenyaoshiganjiqian，tamendaoshihoujiulaiweigongxiangzhenzhengfu。zhengfuyehaipa，chujianvbijingshishaoshu，erzheigecun，shijiqianrendeliyigongtongti。

下乡调研时，林丽霞访谈村书记。图 / 讲述者提供

jielehunjiushiquande——zaihubeitianmen，yougejiatingyoulianggehaizi，gegeshicunhuiji，meimeishigaoducanji，meimeizheizhongqingkuang，zaidangdizhaoduixianghennan，danzheidifangbijiaofuyu，jiuzhaoleyigepianyuannongcundexiaohuoziruzhui，hukouyeqianguolaile，haishenglelianggehaizi，meimeizijiyenenggan，shigecaifeng。houlaiyudaozhengdichaiqian，cunlijiuburentazheiyijia。

womendangshiyequle，xiangzhenganbujiushuo，“nikan，liantagegedoubutongyiji。”womenjiuwentagege，weishenmebutongyi？tagegeshuo，ruguojile，neiyihoudajiajiehunhoudoubuyuanyizoule，bunengyinweitayouteshuqingkuang，jiuewaizhaogu。tamenjiujuede，suoyoudenvxing，zhiyaojialiyouerzi，nijiehunzhihoudouyinggaizou，quanliqupojiaxiangyou。zheishitamengenshendigudeguannian。

haiyouzaihunnvxingdesuiqianzinvshiquande——guangxinanningdegenvshijiwomendadianhuaqiuzhu，shuotamamadaizhetahedidi，jiajilejifu，danshihoulaimuqinhejifudouqushile。jifuyizou，cunlijiuhenpaichitamen，bujitamencunmindaiyu，shuotamenbushizheigecundexuemai。jinguanzaifalvshang，jizinv、hefashouyangdezinv，heqinshengzinvdequanlishiyiyangde。dancunlibuguan，tamenhaishirenkexuemaiguanxi。

zhiqianzai《yixi》deyanjiangzhongwoshuoguo，“dangzheixieshiqutudidefunvzhanchulaiweiquanshi，tamenwangwanghuibianchengyigejiating、yigecunzhuangdediren”，zheishizhende。womenzhenzhengqudaocunli，qubanzheixieanzi，nijiuhuiganjuedao，zuliqueshihenda，shenzhihuiyudaocunminlaiweigong。

wojide2014nian，wohezhongyangdangxiaodelihuiyinglaoshi，quqinghaiyigecunzi，xiangxiediaojiejuechujianvdechaiqiananzhiwenti。quzhiqianjiuzhidao，kenenghennan，maoduntaishenle，dangdifayuanyebushoulichujianvdesuqiu。zheigecundenanxingcunmin，meirenanzhiyitaofang，fumuyeyouyitao，yijialianggeerzi，jiuyousantaofang，neifangziwomenkanle，queshihenhao。danshichujianvjiushenmedoumeiyou，tamenzhinengpaodaohenbianyuandechengjiao，zudeshi100kuaiqianyigeyuedepopingfang。

womendaocunli，xiangzhaocunganbuliaoyiliao。faxiantongwangcunliangweibangongshideloudao，youyidaodatiemen，genbenshangbuqu，renjiaxianwenniyoushenmeshi，zaijiushuo，renbuzai。zouzaicunli，renjiadoushiyongyiyangdeyanguanglaikanwomen，nideyizhe，nibeidebao，tamenjiuzhidaonishiwailaideren，buyuanyigennishuohua。

在青海省的村子里调研。图 / 讲述者提供

“分明是我自己的权利，为什么别人来表决？”

weishenmechujianvweiquanzheimenan，2004nianwomenkaishijieshoudaliangzheileianjian，henkuaijiufaxian，zheileianjiandouyouyigegongtongdekunjing——neijiushi，guanyuchengyuanshenfenwenti，meiyoufalvyiju。

fayuantongchanghuirenwei，chujianvdequanli，shouxianxuyaoquerentamenshinongcunjitijingjizuzhichengyuan，shichengyuan，cainengxiangshouchengyuandaiyu。danwoguodangshidefalv，bingmeiyou“nongcunjitijingjizuzhichengyuan”derendingbiaozhun。dangranyuanzexingguidingshiyoude，biru《funvquanyibaozhangfa》《nongcuntudichengbaofa》，douyouguanyunannvpingdengqiepingdengxiangyoutudiquanlideguiding，《minfa》lihaiyoupingdenggongpingdeyuanze，zheixiedoukeyiyong。

zhibuguohenduoshihou，fayuanjuede，jiranbiaozhunmeiyouwanquanmingque，neizheiyileianjian，tamenyaomebushouli，yaomeshoulilezaibohui。zuizhongdezouxiang，doushituijicunminzizhi。

wokanhenduozhuanjiaxuezhexiewenzhangdoushuo，zhongguohenda，nongcunhenfuza，guanyuchengyuanzigewenti，bushihezuoxiangxiguiding，yinggaijiaojicunminzizhiqujueding。danzhei20nian，womenjiechulezheimeduojutianli，wojuede，jinguanquanguohenda，nongcunhenfuza，dangenbenwentishiyiyangde——neijiushiduihunjianvxingdeqishihepaichi。danchunyikaocunminzizhidejicengminzhuxingshi，jiushixianshizhongbingbunengyouxiaojiejueqinhaifunvtudiquanyidewenti。

zaiyixiecunli，nongcunjititudiquequandeguiding，henduoshihoujiushicunganbuzijidingde，huozhezhaoyixiecunmindaibiao，kaigehuitaolunyixia：zheibiqianzenmefen？chujianvfenbufen？wangwangzheishihou，dajiadoujuede，chujianvdangranbufen，nifenle，wojiushaole。dajiashicunzailiyichongtude。zheixienvxingwangwangdoubuzhiqing，zhishizuihougongshichulai，caizhidaozijimeiyou。

dangnianzaihubeihonghuyougeanzi，womendelvshiqubangchujianv，cunlijiuqingleyiweifaxuejiaoshoulaidaili，neiweijiaoshouzaifatingshanggongranshuo，zhongguodehunjiazhidujiushicongfuju，“jiachuqudenver，pochuqudeshui”，tahaishuo，jinguanzijishijiaoshou，zainongcunhaiyoutadechengbaodi，ruguozijidejiemeigentazheng，tayebutongyiji。“chujianvjiuyinggaiqupojia，buyinggailiuxialaigenxiongdizhengcaichan。”

weilezheigeanzi，womenqingdonglehubeishengfuliandequanyibuzhang，xiwangfuliannengguanzhu、tuijin。dandangdideyizhitaiqiangdale，womendesuoyougongzuo，zuihoudechengxiaozhibuguoshi——rangzhushenfaguanduiwomenkeqileyidian，bingmeiyouyingxiangpanjuejieguo。zheikanqilaishiyigehenxiaodeguansi，shiminjiande、laobaixingdeliyijiufen，danshijishangshiyizhongquanlizhizheng，beihouqianfuzhefuquanzhidechuantongguannian。

lingwaiyigedianxingdeanzi，shizaineimengbayannaoershidewanfengcun。youyigewaijianvjiaoyangzhijun，1982niancunlifendi，dangshitameijiehun，fendaole2.2mudi，zhihoutajielehun、shenglenver，yijiasankoujiushenghuozaicunli，danshidaole1985nian，cunlituranjiubatahenverdetudishouhuiqule，shuoshigenjuxianlidewenjian，waijianvhezinvdetudiyilvyaoshouhui。hetayoutongyangzaoyude，haiyou68weichujianv。

tadangranjuedehenbugongping，1985nianjiukaishiweiquan，congcunweihui、fulian、xiangzhen、qulidaoshili，jiejuebule，tajiuqisu，yishen、ershen、zaishen，falvchengxuquanbuzouwanle，fayuanrangtazhaozhengfu，zhengfuyaoqiuxiangzhenzhengfuzuzhizhaokaicunmindaibiaodahuilaijueding。huikailehaojici，yizhitongbuguo——jinianqian，tadidihaidanglecunzhang，tamenyijiaguanxihenhao，yehentuanjie，didiyexiangjiejuetadewenti，dancunminbiaojuejiushitongbuguo，buyuanyijitamen。zheigeminzhuchengxushiwufapochude。

yangzhijundexinggehenshaojian，tameiduguoshenmeshu，dandaolitebieqingchu，tashuo，“womenzuoweinvren，bingbushitianshengliduan，yeyinggaibeigongpingduidai”。tahaishuo，“weishenmejiaotamenchujianv，quebujiaonanrenchujiahan？”zheitiaoluzouxialai，womenyoushihoudoumeixinxinle，danshitatebiezhizhe，juebufushu，wulunruhedouyaojianchi，henduoshihou，womenshishoudaotadeguwuhetuidongcaijixuxiaqude。

“zheifenmingshiwozijidequanli，weishenmeyaobierenlaibiaojue？”zheijuhuayangzhijunshuoguo，henduochujianvyeshuoguo。hubeihonghuneigecundechujianv，jiuzhijiewenguocunshuji。qishijiushizheigedaoli。

danzaixianshizhong，nihuikandaocunminzizhizhong，shenzhishizhuanjiaxuezhedejianyizhong，youhenduokansihelidetiaojian，shizeshizaixianzhichujianv，rangtamenshiquan。

biru“yitudizuoweijibenshenghuobaozhang”。henduonvxingbaisu，panjueshulidoushuo，tabuyitudizuoweijibenshenghuobaozhang，zaiwaimianzuoshengyi、dagong……danwentizaiyu，zenmedingyi“baozhang”，xiandairenkoudeyigezhongyaotezhengjiushiliudongxing，nvxingzaiwaimiandagongzhengqian，yanghuoziji，yidanmeinenglile，hainenghuidaotudishang，youkoufanchi，worenweizheijiujiaojibenshenghuobaozhang。tuiyibushuo，nanxingcunminyezaiwaimiandagong，danweishenmefenpeishi，tamendounengfendao？wohoulaiwenguoyiweisixiangbijiaoxianjindefaguan，tashuo，chulehuodeguojiadaiyu（jinrutizhi）deren，qitacunminbenzhishangdoushiyitudiweishengde。wozantongzheizhongshuofa，guojiabatudimianfeijinongmin，jiushiduisuoyounongmindejibenshenghuobaozhang。

zaibiru“zhangqijuzhushenghuozaicunli”。worenshiyiduishandonghezedemunv，weilemanzuzheigeyaoqiu，tamendoubuganlikainongcunqudagong，tamenjuede，wobulikai，doudebudaozheigequanli，neiwolikaile，gengdebudaole。tamenjiuzaidangdizuojiazheng、zuolinggong。dangshiwomenquheze，bangtamenkailejiaoshuifeihedianfeidezhengming，5nianyongle9000duokuaiqiandedianfei，zheikendingnengzhengmingtajiazaizheiershenghuo，danzaifatingshang，cunshujihaishishuo，jucunminfanying，tamenmeiyouzhuzaicunli。nizaiyoushenmezhengju，cunliburen，haihao，zuihoufayuanrenkele。

haiyou“shifoulvxingyiwu”。qishi，renheyizhongshenfenquan，doushixianxiangyouquanli，zailvxingxiangyingdeyiwu，erbushixiangfan。yixiechujianvjiugaosuwomen，cunliweilebimianjitamenquanli，huiburangtamenjinyiwu，birukaihuibutongzhita；jibiantatingshuoyaokaihui，yiqu，renjiajiushuosanhui；bujitaxuanjuquan，tayewufacanyuxuanju。zuihoucunlijiushuo，nimeiyoujinyiwu，suoyiyebunengxiangshouquanli。zongzhi，xianshizhonghuiyougezhongliyoulaixianzhitamen。

keshizheigeshiqingshuodaodi，feichangjiandan——nvxingchushengzaizheili，anzhao《minfadian》deguiding，jiehunhou，nannvshuangfangduijuzhudidouyouxuanzequan，nvxingkeyiliuzainiangjia，yekeyiqupojia，chengweinagejitidechengyuan，doushitadexuanze。henduocunmin，shenzhidifangzhengfuhejicengfayuan，douhuiyouyizhongchengjian，juedetamenliuzaijialishitancai，jiuyinweijiaxiangjingjifazhanshuipinghao。yaorangtamendouliuxialai，fuyucunrenkoubujiubaozhale？

danwomenzhidao，henduochujianvbingbushizheiyang，tamenhenduodoushichengjiaodenvxing，renshilewaidilaidexiaohuozi，jiehunyihou，jiuzaibendishenghuo，shenglehaiziyeliuzaibendi，gongzuoshenghuo、haizishangxuedouhenfangbian。erqietuiyibushuo，jiusuanshiweileliyi，yewukehoufei，sheibuzhuiqiuliyi？basuoyoujihuiheliyidoujinanxingdechuantongguannian，yinggaigaibianle。nikeyifangkaihuaibao，jienaqurudexifuheqitawailaideren，weishenmejiubunengrangnidenverzaizheilianjialuohu？

杨志军（左四）为女儿结婚在村里租的平房。图 / 讲述者提供

选正义，还是选漏洞

zheimeduonian，yaoshuoyoumeiyoupandehenhaodeanzi，dangranshiyoude。

2006nian，neimengguhuhehaoteshizhongyuanpanleyigeanzi——28gechujianv，hukoudouzaicunli，zhangfudoushishangmennvxu，yushangchaiqiananzhi，meijiayinggaifen1.5mutudi、yitao70duopingfangmidezhuzhailou、yitaolinjieshangpu。nixiangzheishiduodadeliyi。

dangshifayuanpantamenyingle，neigepanjueshuxiedehenhao，henzhongshifunvquanyi，shiyongdeshi《funvquanyibaozhangfa》《xiaochuduifunvyiqiexingshiqishigongyue》，haiyinyongle《minfa》deyuanzehejingshen，shibapingdengluozailezhishang。

（zheifenpanjueshuyuanwenzheiyangxiedao：woguoshangweizhidingquedinggaizigedebiaozhun，weijiejuejiufen，yingshiyong《minfatongze》degongpingyuanze、leituipanduandeminfalilun，ji28mingchujianvyuyijingqudejitishouyifenpeidecunminxiangbijiao，ruguoshenfenjiqitatiaojianxiangdeng，zeyeyingdangqudexiangtongdaiyu。benande28mingchujianvchuxingbiewai，qitatiaojianyunanxingxiangdeng，yeyingdangxiangyoutongdengdequanli。）

zheijiushifayuanyinggaiyoudeyizhongzitai：dangyoujutifalvzuoweiyijushi，jiuyijujutidefalv；dangmeiyoujutidefalvyiju，nijiuyinggaigenjufalvdeyuanzehejingshen（laipanan）。

danzhihou，womennazhezheifenpanjueshu，quweiyangzhijundeanjianzhengqushi，yiweifaguanjiushuo，hushizheigeanzijuewujinyou。shenmeyisini？zheigeanjian，qishiyishenyebaisule，baisuhou，28mingchujianvyongshengmingkangzheng，suoyiershencaishengsu。suoyiwoshuo，nvxingdequanlizhenshikangzhengdelaide，yinweizhangqishouyapo，nixiangzhanqilai，zulihenda，zhendeshizaiyongshengmingkangzheng。

suoyishuotongyangdeanzi，weishenmeyoudedifangzhichi，youdedifangbuzhichi，jiushiyinweidangshifalvbuwanshan，youloudong。nixiangzhichichujianv，nengzhaodaoyiju，nibuxiangzhichichujianv，yenengzhaodaoyiju。jiukannizenmexuan，yaobuyaozhuanjianyouloudongdedifangzou。

zheixienian，quanguoyouyixiedifangzuodeyebucuo，zhengzhihuanjinghao，minfengyebucuo，fayuanyebijiaogongping，zheiyangdedifang，chujianvdejiufenxiangduijiushao。

birusichuan，2015nian，sichuanshengnongyetingjiuchutaileyigebiaozhun——nongcunjitijingjizuzhichengyuanquanyijiufen，yihujiweizhuyaobiaozhun，nichushengzaizheigedifang，hukouyezai，jiukeyixiangyouchengyuanquanyi，yinchusheng、jiaqu、shouyang、shenqingjiarudengqingkuang，fuhebiaozhundedoukeyixiangyouquanli。zheigeguidingbijiaoheli，yefuhenongcunshiji，xiangduigongping。zheigeguidingchutaizhihou，womenjiuhenshaojiedaosichuandeqiuzhu。jibianyoujiufen，yinweizhengcemingque，nizhishaokeyiquqisu，erqiefayuantongchanghuizhichi。xiangwomenzhiqianqusichuanguangan，dangdiyouzhengdichaiqian，wojiuwencunmin，“nvxingjiehunhouhukouhailiuzainiangjia，chaiqianfenleyitaofang，dajiahuibuhuiyouyijian？”cunminjiuhuishuo，“neiyoushenme，zhiyaorenjiahukouzaizheili，bierenmeideshuo。”

zaibirushanxixian，2003nian，chengshihuajinchengjiakuai，chuxianlehenduozhengdichaiqianjiufen，chujianvdesuqiujiejuebule，dangshi1000duoweichujianvquweigongfayuan，hentouteng。2004nian，xianshizhongjirenminfayuanjiuchutaileneibuguiding，zhidingleyigerendingchengyuanzigedebiaozhun，zheiyangchujianvdewentijiujiejuele。womenyecongweijiedaoguoxiandetousu。

lingwaihaiyouanhuishenggaoyuan、hainanshenggaoyuan……doushizai2004nian、2008nianzuoyou，zhuanmenzhenduiyongxianchudechujianvdejiufen，chutailezhengce。suoyiyouzhengceyijuhaishibuyiyang，yinweifayuanshizuihouyidaofangxian，youleyiju，fayuanjiukeyipanan。

shenzhiyoushihou，yangzhangdejiushikaimingdeguanyuan。nanninggaoxinquguanweihuiyouyirenzhuren，jiuduichujianvtebietongqing，shangtaizhihou，jiejuelechujianvdewenti。wokanguoyigeshipin，tafabiaojianghua，zhendeshihenganren，nihuijuedeyouzheiyangdeganbu，weilaishiyouxiwangde。dantazhizairenshangsannian，houlaijiudiaodaoxianliqule，zheigezhengceyejiuzhongduanle。

jingguozheixieshiqing，womenhoulaiyeyishidao，jiranhaimeiyouchutaijutidefalv，chujianvdewenti，guangkaosusong，yiyibuda——womenyinggaihuanyizhongfangshi，zhaoyixiediqu，tongguozuoxiangmudefangshi，zixiaershangtuidonglifadewanshan。

yibanlaishuo，womenshiheshengshijifulianhuozhengfuhezuo，zaijicengdefulian、zhengfu、fayuanyijiyoudecunzhuanglaizuoshidian，tuidongdifangzhengfu、fayuanchutaixiangguanwenjian，tuidongshidiancunxiudingcunguiminyue。

hebeixingtaishizhongjirenminfayuan，jiushiwomenzuoguodeyigebijiaochenggongdeshidian。2004nianzhiqian，xingtaizhongyuanneibuyouwenjianguiding，chujianvdeanjiangaibushouli，2007nianwomenyejiedaoguoxingtaichujianvdeqiuzhu。dangshiqicaoneigewenjiandefaguanjiaomaweidong，shiminshifatingdetingzhang。womengangquxingtaizuopeixun，tahendichu，juedejiushibugaishouli，dantayehenshanyuxuexi、shanyutiwen，gezhongguannianjiukaishidajia——houlai，tadeguannianjiumanmangaibianle，juedehaishiyinggaishouli，youyoutaqicaoleyifenxinwenjian，guidingzheileianjianzenmeshouli，shenmeqingkuangxiayinggaibaoliuquanli，xiedehenmingque。2010nian1yue1hao，zheigeguidingchutaile。tadanxinzheigeguidingbuhaozhixing，shenzhihaizhudongshenqingdiaodaozhixingjuzuolejuzhang，henrangrengandong。

邢台中院马维东法官在培训中解析新规定。图 / 讲述者提供

zaiquanguo，xiudingcunguiminyue，zuodezuizao、zuodezuihaodeyinggaishihenandengfengshizhoushancun，shihenandeliangjunlaoshi、zhongyangdangxiaodelihuiyingdengjiweilaoshishengengduoniandejieguo。

womenzuocunguiminyue，qishibuyidingzhijieqierutudiquan，yinweinizhijietitudiquan，henduorenhuijuedemingan，huijujue。henduoshihou，womenshicongyanglaowentilaiqieru。yanglaoshinongcunhenguanzhudewenti，suowei“yangerfanglao”，danshiyangerzhennengfanglaoma？nverjinleyanglaoyiwuma？yingbuyinggaifenjiachan？

liangjunlaoshidetuanduijiuzuoleyigeyanglaohuatimonifatingdeshipin，jiangdejiushiguanyunongcunshanyanglaorenhefenpeijiachandejiufengushi——youyiduilaorenyanglelianggeerzi、yigenver，laorendesuoyoujixudoujilianggeerzimaifangquqi，dengdaolaolebingle，erzimenshigezhongtuituo，nverquexiangfangshefachoushijiansihoufumu，fencaichandeshihou，nverqueyidiandoudebudao，tatebieshangxin。zheiyangdegushizainongcunhenpubian。wenticengcengfenxixialai，dajiajiufaxian，nverjindeshanyangyiwububierzishao，quebufencaichan，queshibugongping。womenmeicizuopeixun，douhuibofangzheigeshipin，henduoxiangzhenganbu、cunganbukanledouhenshouzhenhan，huiliulei。

congcunjitidejiaodulaishuo，yeshiyiyangde。cunjitiduicunlidenverheerzi，shibushipingdeng？ruguobupingdeng，neidajiadouxiangshengerzi。danzheiyangyilai，erziyuelaiyueduo，zuihoudouqubushangxifu，cailiyeyuelaiyuegao。womenjiuconggenyuanshanglaifenxita，yeshixiwanggencunmintaolun，rangdajiakankan，nengbunenggaibianyixieguannian，bapingdengdeguizexiejincunguiminyueliqu。houlaitamendoutongyile。

（2009nianzhoushancunxiudingdecunguiminyue，beichengwei“woguolishishangshoubujuyouxingbiepingdengneirongdecunguiminyue”，congxuduofangmianqingchulecunzhuangqishinvxingde“qianguize”，jutitiaokuanruxia：

chunnvhu、youeryounvhudezinvhunjiaziyou，nandaonvjia、nvdaonanjiajunke，xiangshoubencuncunmindaiyu；

hunchunannvyinlihunhuosangou，jianghukouqianhuibencunzhexiangshoucunmindaiyu；

zhichi、gulifunvcanzhengyizheng，zaihuanjiexuanjuzhong，nvxingdangxuancunmindaibiaobushaoyu50%；ruxuancunliangwei、cunminzuzhangyijiqitacunminyishijigoudebilibudiyusanfenzhiyi；

tichangwenmingjiejiandehunli，fannandaonvjiadehunli，cunliangweidalizhichibingxiezhucaoban；

fuqizaijiatingzhongdiweipingdeng，gongtongchengdanjiawulaodong；

tichangzinvxingshiziyou，suifuxing、suimuxinghuofumushuangxingjunke。）

西宁出嫁女失地后租住的平房。图 / 讲述者提供

代价

xinfameichulaizhiqian，2018nianzuoyou，shiwomenzuijuewangdeshihou——dangshilaiqiuzhudenvxing，youdeyijingzouwanlesusongchengxu，quanbubaisu；youdemeizouwansusongchengxu，yinweifayuanbushouli。youxieanjian，womenhuiquzhaodangdizhengfuxiediaojiejue，youxiezhengfukenengkeqikeqi，jiedaiwomen，yehuishuokaolvzenmejiejue。danwomenyihuilaijiumeixiawenle。

youqishilaoyidainvxingdewenti，jiejueqilaifeichangnan。tamendaduowenhuashuipingbijiaodi，fangfabudedang，biruquweiquanshibudaicailiao，yemeiyouzhengju：cunlizhengleduoshaodi，qizhongyouniduoshaodi，fenpeifanganzenyang？tamentongchangdoubuqingchu。duoshushihouzhishikoutouquzhao，renjiajijuhuajiubatamendafale，meiliuxiarenhewenzihuifu，yincibunengzhengmingtamenyizhizaiweiquan，qisushi，henkenengyiguosusongshixiao。weiquanguochengtaikunnan，daduoshurenmanmanjiufangqile，zhiyoushaoshurenhainengjianchi，youfangfahezhihui，yeyuanyifuchudaijia。

danshinihaishihuikandaozaimanzhangdeshijianzhong，tamenderenshengshizenmemosunde。tamenshiquleqingchun、jiankang，youhenduorenzuihouyelilehun。

woqianmiantidaodeneimenggubayannaoerdeyangzhijun，dangshitahetameimeiyiqiweiquan。juyangzhijunshuo，zhengfudangshifenjitamen7fendekouliangtian，danshicunlirenweilebiaodabuman，tamenzhongshenme，cunmindouqubadiao。zuihoutamentiantianwanshangjiushuizaidilishouzhe，shentishouchaojiashanglaolei，houlaitameimeideleshenbing，40duosuijiuqushile。

yangzhijundangshihuaishanglediergehaizi，yeshiyicihecunmindejiufen，tabeidale，duifangbuzhidaotahuaiyunle。houlaitajiuqubaotai，yongleyao，haizimeiliuchan，haishishengxialaile，danfayudebuhao，liangsuiduojiuqushile。zhendeshifuchuletaidadedaijia。

zhejiangtaizhouyougechujianv，tayoudidi，danhaishixiangzhengquzijidezhaijidi。guoqu20nian，tazaiwaijianvquntilihenhuoyue，shiyigezuzhizhe，renyehennenggan，qishizaizhejiangsuibianzuodianshengyi，dounengshengcunxiaqu，danshitaxuanzeleweiquan。

qianduanshijianwomenlianxita，tagenwoshuo，tahouhuile，shiquleyiqie——lihunle，youmeiyouhaizi，haideleaizheng，shentihenxuruo。taquanjiadoubuzhichita，chuchushoudayahepaichi。xianzaitagukulingdingyigeren，duzizaiwaimianzufangshenghuo。womendangshixiangrangyiweitaizhoujishixishengqukankanta，tayeshifeichanggulv，shuowomenshixishengshinansheng，tapazuolinyoushekandaoyouyixinglai，huishuoxianhua。tajiuzheiyangdanzhanxinjingdiguozherizi。

zaizhejiangdongyang，youyiweigengnianqingdechujianv，tayeshiyouyigedidi，zuikaishi，tadidizaiwaimiandagong，shuozijibuhuihuilaojiale，jialijiudachenggongshi，rangtazhaoxu，liuzaijialishenghuo。danshiguolejinian，didiyoujuedinghuilaile，henkuaijiujielehun，jialijiuburangtazhule，rangtahezhangfunverbanchuqu。taxiangyaoyigezhaijidi，zaicunlijianfangzi，cunliyebuyuanyi。

dangshiwomenqudaotajia，tadejiarenfeichangqiangying。womenxianggentamentantan，tamamahedidijujuejianmian，tababahaodaichuxianle，danwanquantingbujinhua，youyanbujin，yizhishuo，tajiadesuoyoucaichandoushierzihesunzide。zaifumumianqian，tawanquanshishoudayade，shenmehuadoubuganshuo。

dangshitadezhuangtaiyefeichangzhiao，shineizhongzhangqiweiquanshibaizhihoudeyingjizhuangtai。womendanfanyoudianfanduitadeyijian，tajiubugaoxing。dangshitanvercai3sui，henmingxianyebeimamayingxiangle，kanrendeshihou，yeshineizhongdishideyanshen，womenxiangjitayidiantang，tayeshifeichangziwobaohu。

womenshenzhijiejuezheigewentidenandu，xiwangmiaomang，suoyijiuquantashuo，niquzhaogegongzuoba，xianbazijideshenghuogaohao。womenlejieleyixia，zaidangdikaichuzuche，yigeyuedounengzheng9000duokuaiqian，tinghao，shijianyeziyou，danshitashuotabugankaiche。

（2023nian，meirirenwuzuozhecengqudaozhejiang，jiandaolejiweichujianv。dangshiguanchadaotamenjiatingneibudemouxiegongxing：zheixiechujianvdezhangfu，wangwangzaiweiquanzheijianshiqingshangdoushichenmode，tamenbuzuzhiqizizuozheijianshi，danyebuzhichi、bubiaotai、bucanyu。womenyuqizimenliaotianshi，tamenshijialiyigehuisedebeiying。shiquanrucixianxing，dantamenxiwanghulveta，jixushenghuoxiaqu。

dongyangzheiweichujianvshenzhitidao，youduanshijian，tadezhangfubuxiangyaozheigejiatingle，tashi“zijitieshangqu”，jinliweichihetadeguanxi。tayitaishengdeshinver，weileliuzhuzhangfu，tayoushengleertai，shigeerzi。tashuo，erzichushengzhihou，“laogongdexindingxialaile”。）

womenshijuede，duisuoyoudechujianvlaishuodouyiyang——tudiquanyiwenti，bushizhenduimougeren，shiyigexitongxingdewenti。gerendenuli，queshihuituidongshehuijinbu、tuidongfazhijinbu，yinggaiyouzheiyangderenchuxian。danquequeshishi，tadechengbentebieda，fuchutebieduo，nihuidedaoshenmeyangdehuibao，sheidoubuzhidao。

suoyiyinggaixianbazijideshenghuogaohao，buyaoyiyiguxing，zhizuozheiyijianshi。yinweizheiyangdehua，nibazijideyishengdajinqu，xishengdiaojiankanghexingfu，douweibinengzhengdehuilai。dangranle，tamenyouxuanzedeziyou。ruguotamenzheimexuan，womenyidinghuitigonglisuonengjidebangzhu。

与女村官交谈。图 / 讲述者提供

“最好、最适合的法律”

suoyidaole2020nian，womentingshuo《nongcunjitijingjizuzhifa》beilierulifajihua，dangrangandaohengaoxing，juedekandaolexiwang。zhiqianmeiyoutaizhongshita，yemeixiangdaotuijinhuizheimekuai。

jingguozheimeduonian，womenhenmingbai，guanyuchujianvdetudiwenti，zuihaojiushiyouquanguorendatongyilifa，zhidingmingqueqiejutideguiding——yinweiwoguoshichengwenfaguojia，zhiyoufalvguidingle，youmingquedeyiju，zheiyangjiuhenshun，wulunshidifangzhengfuhefayuan，chulijiufendeshihoujiuyouyijukexunle。

guoquqitafalvlifashi，womendouyouguoqidai。zhiqian《nongcuntudichengbaofa》xiuding，womenqidaitanengdui“sheiyouquanlichengbaotudi”zuoguiding。yixieguanzhuxingbiewentidefalvzhuanjiadangshijiutiguo，yaokaolvdaohunjiadenvxing。tamenjiadaopojiazhihou，fenzainiangjiadetudidaibuzou，tudihetongqixiandongzhejiu20、30nian，zheizenmeban？cunjitiyinggaiyaoyuliuyibufentudi，buyaofenwan，baozhanghunjiadefunvyenengfendaodi。dandangshidelifazhejuede，yinggaibaochizhonglidezitai，“fanzhengnannvdouzaiyigejiali，nizainiangjiashi，xiangyouzheigejiadetudi，daolepojia，jiuxiangshoupojiade”，zheijiushixiangdangranle。

houlai《funvquanyibaozhangfa》xiuding，womenyeyouguoqidai，dantayoushidaerquande、changdaoxingdefalv，bukenengjiuyigewentiguidingdehenxi。erqiezaiwoguodesifashijianzhong，zheibufalvhenduoshihoububeishiyong。faguanhuijuede，zhiyoujiatingbaoli、xingsaorao，caishifunvwenti，dannongcuntudiwenti，yijitijingjizuzhiweizhu，bushifunvwenti。

suoyi《nongcunjitijingjizuzhifa》lierulifajihua，womenzhendehengaoxing——tashizuihao、zuishihejiu“chengyuanzige”wentizuochuguidingdefalv，erqieshishouciguiding。ruguoguidingdejuti、xiangxi、kecaozuo，keyimibujishinianlaidequeshi。

erqiefangzihetudi，jiushinongcunzuidadeliyi，zaizheigewentishang，ruguonannvpingdeng，neidajiabuhuizaihushengerhaishishengnv，duiyujiuzhengnanhaipianhao，huifeichangyoubangzhu，cailiwenti、yanglaowentizhubudouhuidedaojiejue。tadeyiyishifeichangdade，danqiantishi，zheitiaofalvyaoguidinghao。

suoyizai2022niandi，《nongcunjitijingjizuzhifa（caoan）》chutai，kaishixiangshehuizhengqiuyijiandeshihou，womenhenkuaijiuduwanlecaoanquanwen，yewenlehenduochujianvdexiangfa，zuihoutichulewomendexiugaiyijian，huyudajiayiqitijiao。

zheifencaoanyouhenrangrenjingxidebufen，youqishidierzhang“chengyuan”bufen，yongjinshigetiaowenguidinglenongcunjitijingjizuzhichengyuandedingyi、queren、quanli、yiwu、tuichu、baoliudengdengredianwenti，shizhenzhengweifalvzhurulelinghun。

danwomenjuede，tayeyouyixiekeshangquezhichu：

birudishiertiao，guanyuchengyuanquedingwenti，shizheimeguidingde，“anzhaozunzhonglishi、jianguxianshi、chengxuguifan、qunzhongrenkedeyuanze，tongchoukaolvhujiguanxi、nongcuntudichengbaoguanxi、shengchanshenghuoqingkuang、jibenshenghuobaozhanglaiyuan、duijitijileidegongxiandengyinsu”。

womendangshiyikan，suowei“zunzhonglishi”“qunzhongrenke”dengdeng，jialezheimeduoxiandingtiaojian，shibushishuo，yiqiancunminmenrendingmougechujianvbuxiangshouquanli，neiyihouyeyinggaizunzhongzheigejuece？xianshizhong，wanquankeyiyongzheixietiaokuanlaizuankongzi。womendangshijiuzheigetiaokuantilexiugaiyijian。

zaibirucaoandishijiutiao“busangshichengyuanshenfendeqingxing”，taguiding“funvchengyuanbuyinsangou、lihunersangshijitijingjizuzhichengyuanshenfen”。danshijishang，henduonongcundiqu，dalingweihun、jiehun、zaihundenvxing，yehuibeipaichuzaijitizhiwai。suoyiwomenjiujianyi，bazheitiaogaicheng“funvchengyuanbuyinweihun、jiehun、sangou、lihun、zaihundengersangshijitijingjizuzhichengyuanshenfen”。

shuoshihua，henduoshihou，womentizheixiejianyi，qishiyebuquedingnengbunengbeicaina。danwomenyiranyaoti，yaoxiechulai，baliyouxiedehenchongfen，yinweizheiyeshiyizhongxuanchuanhejiaoyu。

zhenzhengdao2024nian6yue，《nongcunjitijingjizuzhifa》gongbu，womenfaxianlifazhehaishicainalehenduojianyi，duichengyuanzigedeguiding，yigongyoujiutiao，bijiaomingque，biwomenxiangxiangzhongyaohaohenduo。

qizhongmingquetidao，nongcunjitijingjizuzhichengyuan，“buyinwugong、jingshang、lihun、sangoudengyuanyinsangshishenfen”——womenjianguohenduoanli，nvxingjiushiyinweizheixieyuanyin，beiboduolequanyi；haiyouyitiaoguiding，shuojitijingjizuzhidechengyuan，ruguojiehunle，danmeiyouzaiqitadifangqudechengyuanshenfen，neimeyuancunjiti，yebunengquxiaotadeshenfen，zheitiaoyeshiduihunjianvxingyoulide。

erqiedinggaohaizhuanmentidaolefunvquanyi，“funvxiangyouyunanzipingdengdequanli”，zheixiangdangyushiba《funvquanyibaozhangfa》lideneirongyiguolaile，zheihenrangrenxinwei，shihenyoubiyao、yehenhaodeyidian。

xinfagongbuneitian，henduochujianvdouhenxingfen，youqishiguangxi、guangdong、shandongdenvxing，tamenzijidedaiyukenengjiejuele，danzinvyizhidoushibeipaichide。erxinfamingqueguidingle，“duiyinchengyuanshengyuerzengjiaderenyuan……yingdangquerenweinongcunjitijingjizuzhichengyuan”。henduorengenwoshuo，neitiantamenhenwandoumeishuizhe。

在江苏省试点村修订村规民约讨论会的现场。图 / 讲述者提供

隐忧与期待

xinfa2025nian5yue1haoshengxiao，dancongjinnianxiatiantagongbukaishi，youxiedifang，yijingyoulesongdong。

zaineimenggutongliao，jiuyouyigeanzi，shejidaocunlidetudibuchangkuan，meiniancunlidoufa，zuijinzheici，meiweicunmindounengfayiwanyuan，dantamenzhifenjichujianv500yuan。quancunyou75weichujianv，tamendangranbutongyi，houlaijianchajiguanjieru，qugencunjitixiediaogoutong，diaojiezhihoudejieguoshi——zheicideyiwanyuan，chujianvdounengxiangyou，nanxingcunminnaduoshao，tamenjiunaduoshao。

danyinweifalvmingniancaishengxiao，shuyutamendezhei75wanyuan，cunjitiyijingfangzaileyigezhuanmendezhanghushang，dengmingnian5yue1ri，《nongcunjitijingjizuzhifa》yishengxiao，zheiqianjiujitamen。

xianzaiwomenduixinfazuidadedanyou，jiuzaiyudishiertiaodiyikuan：“nongcunjitijingjizuzhitongguochengyuandahui，yijuqiantiaoguidingquerennongcunjitijingjizuzhichengyuan”，yisihaishishuo，chengyuanzigehaishiyoucunminzizhi，jikaicunmindahui，shaoshufucongduoshulaijueding。womenduixianshibijiaolejie，danxinzheitiaofalv，huichengweichujianvzhengququanlishizuidadezuai。

jugelizi，jinnianwomenquleyitangshandong，dangdiyougeanli，shigeshuangnvhujiating，fuqinyinweizhongnanqingnv，henzaojiuheqizilihunle，qulewaidi，zuchenglexinjiating，zheiweimuqinjiudaizhelianggenverzaicunlijixushenghuo，danverhaizaicunlizhaolexu。houlaizheiweifuqindaizheerhundeqizi、erzihuilaile，cunlijiugendanvershuo，niyoudidile，neinijiushichujianv，buxiangshoucunmindaiyule，boduoletadequanyi。zhiqiantameiniannengfendaozhengdihezudikuan，houlaijiumeiyoule。

zheigenverbufu，quqisu，fayuanpantashengsule，danshishuyutadeqian，yizhiwufaluoshi。womenjiuqudangdi，xiangkankandaodizenmehuishi，daolezhihoufaxian，yinweitaqisule，cunminduitajiayijianhenda。kaicunmindahui，dajiadoubutongyibaqianjita；tadagongzanqianmaideyiliangche，beirenzale；gebiyiweinanxingcunminheledianjiu，jiumatamama，shuotalaizaicunlibuzou，fendajiadecaichan，haibatamamadale；tamamayebeicunganbutichulecunlideweixinqun，taxiangwendianshenmeshi，cunlirendoubulita。jiushizheiyangyizhongfenwei，tamenyijiashihenshougulide。

youyitianwanshang，womenzaicunliliuda，heyixiecunminliaotian。buguanshinanxingcunminhaishinvxingcunmin，tamendoushishuo，“zaiwomennongcun，falvpanyingle，yemeiyong，womendoushianzhaotubanfalai。（suoyouquanyi）chujianvdoushibunengyoude。yaoshidoujifen，neisuoyounvhaijiehunhoudoubuzoule。”

jingliguoleisideshiqing，womenjiuhuijuede，ruguohaishiyouchengyuandahuilaiquerenchengyuanshenfen，huiyouqianzaidefengxian——yudaobujianglidecunjiti，jinjin“cunminzizhi”zheiyitiao，jiukeyituifansuoyoujinbu。womendangranxiwangsuoyoucunmindouyuanyigaibian，danfalvbunengjixiwangyurendedaode。youqishidangliyihendadeshihou。

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qishizheijianshikeyihenjiandan。woxiangjiangyige20nianqiandegushi。dangshijiaoyubuyougeguiding，daxueshengbenkejieduanbunengjiehun，yanjiushengheboshijieduanbunengshenghaizi。2004nian7yuedeyitian，wojiedaileyiweinvboshi。

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womenjiuzhenduizheiqianjian，zhaokaileyigeyantaohui，qinglemeiti、zhuanjiaxuezhe、gaoxiaoguanlizhelaikaihui，dangshijiaoyubudeguanyuanyelaile。tazaixianchangshuo，shinianqian，tamenjiuxiangquxiaozheigeguiding，danyouhaipaquxiaozhihou，xuexiaochengleyuyingtang。nvhaizishangdaxuejiujiehun，yanjiushengjiushenghaizi，jiaoyujihuadouyaobeidaluan，haoxiangyidanzhengcefangkai，jiuhuichuhendaluanziside。

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tongyangdedaoli，nongcundenvhaizi，bingbuhuiyinweiyoulequanyi，jiuquandouliuzaicunlibuzou。tamenyaojincheng、dushu、zhaogongzuo，renshilixingde、liudongde。danzuizhongyaode，shiwomenyinggaijitamenxuanzedeziyouhequanli。