记者 | 林子人

编辑 | 朱洁树

『思想界』栏目是界面文化每周一推送的固定栏目，我们会选择上一周被热议的1至2个文化/思想话题，为大家展现聚焦于此的种种争论与观点冲突。本周的『思想界』，我们关注宇芽控诉家前男友沱沱的施暴行为及高以翔意外死亡事件。

宇芽控诉前男友家暴：施暴的男人，都是精神变态吗？

11yue25rishi“xiaochuduifunvdebaolixingweiguojiri”。jiushizaizheiyitian，wanghongyuyayuyamika（yixiajianchengyuya）yongyitiaoshipinzaizhongwenhulianwangshangxianqilerenmenduiyujiatingbaolideguanzhu。zaineitiao12fenzhongdeshipinli，yuyajiangshulebannianlaitazaoshoujiabaodejingli。yuyashiyiweiyouzhe90wanweibofensidemeizhuangbozhu，cengpingmofangmengnalishaheaiyinsitanchengming。tayu2018nian8yuejieshilechahuashituotuodefengmojiao（yixiajianchengtuotuo），yigeyuehoukaishijiaowang。errenzaiyiqizhihou，tajinglilecongjingshenkongzhizhubushengjidaojiatingbaolidekongbuemeng。

shipinkaitoudeyiduandiantijiankongluxiangjiluletuotuoduiyuyajinxingdisicijiabaodepianduan。juyuyasuoshuo，tayirenzaixinfangzilishuaqiangzhihouxiangyaozaodianhuijiaxiuxi，ertuotuobuxianghuiqu，zaiyuyahuijiahou，tuotuoyouyisiweixie。“wobufangxinjiuguoqukanta，quemeixiangdaoyijinmentajiudawo，hedewoxiangzuodiantitaopao，jieguotazhuishanglaiqiangxingbawocongdiantilituochu，yongliqiawodebozikuaiyaozhixi，zhuazhewodetoushijingwangqiangshangzhuang，butingdirumawo，basuoyoudechouhendoufaxiezaiwoshenshang。”neicibaolishijianfashengzhihoujinjinyizhou，yuyayouzaodaolegengjiayanzhongdeouda，zheijiandingletafenshoujipuguangtuotuoexingdejuexin。

zheibingbushi“jiatingbaoli”jinqizaigonggongyulunchangzhongyongxiandeweiyianli。11yue24ri，hanguonvxingjuhelazaijiazishashenwang，zaicizhiqian，tayecengbaoshouqiannanyoucuizhongfandebaoliduidai，nanyoushenzhiyongyinsishipinweixieta，ertabudebuzaidiantizhongxiangduifangxiagui。tongyangshizaishangzhou，jiangjingfudewulaguijinvyouzaishejiaowangluoshangkongsujiangduizijijinxingqiujin、ouda，huihuaitadeyinxingkahediannao，shihouhaihuizhuyixiaohuijiabaozhengju。erjiuzai2018niandezheigeshihou，jiangjingfuhaishenxianoudarijinvyoubeiribenjingfangsoubudechouwenzhizhong。

cong2001niandianshiju《buyaohemoshengrenshuohua》rangjiatingbaolidegainianchuxianzaigongzhongshiye，dao2016nian3yue1ri《zhonghuarenmingongheguofanjiatingbaolifa》zhengshishishi，zaidaojinjinianjielianbaochudezhongdaexingjiatingbaolishijian，“jiabaozhiyou0cihewushuci”denggainianzhujianshenrurenxin。ranermeicijiabaoshijianpuguanghou，yezongyouyizhongzhiyishengchuxian：“weishenmebupao？weishenmebujishibaojing？weishenmeyaoyiweirenrang？”sihujiabaodecuowuzongshiyuanzishouhaizhederuanruohebuzuowei，ranerzheizhonglundiaoshijishangmohulewentidezhenzhengzhongdian，jishibaozhededongjiheshibaoxinlijizhi，yijizuzhitamenshibaodefangfa。

beijingqianqianlvshishiwusuozhuren、gongyilvshiguojianmeizaijieshoucaifangshizhichulejiatingbaolishibaozhedejibentezheng：

yishixingbieqishi，tamenxinfengnanzunnvbei、nanzhunvcongdeguxun，tamenxiangxinbaolishiposhishouhairenjiufandehelieryouyouxiaodeshouduan。

ershineiwaishuangzhongmiankong，jiabaoshibaonanchengxianjiqinmibanlvhewairendeshiliangfubutongdemiankong，zaiwaitamendexingweifuheshehuibiaozhun，duineitamenjiezhubaolishouduankongzhiqinmibanlv。

sanshiguodudejidu，tamenyoulingrennanyilijiedejiduxin，jidubiaomianshangsihushiyinweiaideguoshen，shizhishangjiduheaimeiyoutaidaguanxi。jidushijiduzheyinjiduhaipashiqumougerendeganqing、mouzhongdiweihuoliyierchanshengdejiaolv，shijiduzhebuzixinhequefaanquangandebiaoxian。jiduzheweilekongzhiduifang，yijiduweijiekou，bufengzhuoying，wuru、manma、oudaqinmibanlv，shenzhigenzong、xianzhiduifangxingdongziyou。

sishiyilaixinli，daduoshushibaorenshibuzixin、buziai、meiyouanquanganderen，tamenxuyaojiezhubierenduizijidetaidu，yizhengmingzijidenenglihejiazhi。shouhairenzaibaolixiadeshuncong，shishibaorenhuodezixinheanquangandeshouduanzhiyi。zheizhongyilaixinli，shideshibaorenjianjuebutongyifenshou，mianduishouhairendefenshouyaoqiu，shibaorenhuocaiqufenshoubaoliqituzuzhishouhairenlikai，huotongkuliutibaozhengtonggaiqianfei。

wushirenqianziwoshanghaihuoyisixiangbi，shouhairenruoxiangfenshouhuolihun，shibaorenwangwanghuizaishouhairen、faguanhuotedingrenmianqianjinxingziwoshanghai，shenzhiyisixiangbi，qimudeshiweileshishouhairenchanshengneijiuhehuanxiang，yibianjixukongzhihecaozongshouhairen。

liushixidebaoli，shibaorentongguoertongqidemofanghuoqinshenjinglierxidebaolidegoutongfangshi，yinci，guanchatamenyuanshengjiatingdegoutongmoshishifoujuyoubaoliyinsufeichangzhongyao。

deyipianwenzhangyuanyinbinzhouzhoulidaxueshehuixuerongxiujiaoshoumaikeer·yuehanxun（michael johnson）deqinmiguanxibaolililunzhichu，jiatingbaolishuyuqinmikongbu（intimate terrorism，it）defanchou，jiyigebanlvyoumudedishiyongbaoli，yiqiangpokongzhilingyifang。“zaizheiyangdeguanxili，baolibushichongtushikongshidehuou，ershidanfangmianshijiade、fanfufashengdeyanzhongnvedai。qizhongyifangduilingyifangshijiadebaolicishumingxianyaoduodeduo，shiyongdebaolishouduanduozhongduoyang（konghe，ruma，huihuaiwupin，zican，oudaduifang，nvedaihaizihuochongwu，xianzhiduifangyuwaijiejiechu，kongzhiduifangdeqiancai），kongzhizheshouhaizheshenghuodefangfangmianmian。”

zhidezhuyideshi，qinmikongbuxingdebaolishigecengcengshengjideguocheng，shibaozheduibanlvzaochengdeshanghaihuiyuelaiyueyanzhong，shenzhiweijishengming。tongjishujuxianshi，bachengyishangdeqinmikongbushibaozheshinanxing。zheileishibaozhetongchanghuijinxingshenti、jingjiheqinggannvedai，guli、gelibanlv，tongguoweixiekongherangbanlvtuisuo，bingfourenzijidenvedaixingwei，jiangzhiguijiuyuduifangde“cuowu”。wenzhangzhichu，“qinmikongbu”xingjiabaozheyoulianglei，yileishikebeierwuneng，zhinengkaobaoliheweixielaizuzhibanlvlikaideren，yileishifanshehuiqiezilian，duishanghaitarenhaowukuijiuganderen。tamendouduijiabaoxingweihaowukuijiuzhigan，tamenduibanlvdezhinian，bushichuyuaiyi，ershichuyumouzhongbingtaidekongzhiyu。

raner，tixingrenmenjingtijiangjiabaonanshizuojingshenbiantaihuoshaoshuyileidexiangfa。genjuzhongguofuliandeshuju，zaiquanguo2.7yigejiatingli，yueyou30%deyihunnvxingcengzaoshoujiatingbaoli。wulunruhe，womendouwufarenweishehuizhongjihu1/3denanxingdoushibuzhengchangde“jingshenbiantai”，zheibeihouzhudingyoumouzhongjiangbaolixingweihelihuadejizhizaiyunzuo，rangzheibufennanxingnenggousiwujidandihuiquandaxiangzijidebanlv。

zheigerangjiabaohelihuadeshehuijizhijiushi“fuquanzhi”。nanxingmianlindeshehuiqidaishiyaoyounanziqigai，nenggouyiyijiazhizhudeshenfenguixunguanlizinvheqizidexingwei，ernvxingmianlindeshehuiqidaishiyaoyouwenrouxianshudenvxingqizhi，zuncong“sancongside”，zhaoguzhenggejiating。“zaizheizhengtaofuquandezhichengzhixia，nanxingjiuhuirongyichanshengzheizhongzhipei、kongzhinvxingdequanliyishi。”liangwendaozhichu，suiranbushisuoyouzaizheitaojizhidejinranxiachengzhangqilaiderendouhuichengweishibaozhe，danyixieyinsuhuichufatamendebaoliqingxiang，biruzaijiatingzhongmudufuqinyongbaoliduidaimuqin，haizijiuyoukenengjiangzheizhongxiangchufangshihelihua，bingfuzhidaozijideqinmiguanxizhong。

zaimeiguowenhuarenleixuejialian·aisile（riane eisler）kanlai，nanxingshehuihuadeyigejibenzuchengbufenjiushi“baolideseqinghua”，zheiconggenbenshangniuquleliangxingguanxi，jiangzhibianweizhuzai-fucongdebupingdengguanxi。congnanhaiziwanwanjujian、wanjuqiang、shejileidianziyouxidaoqingchunqihechengnianqijiechudegezhonggesongzhanshihuoyingxiongdeliuxingwenhuawenben，nanxingzaiqianyimohuajianbeiguanshuleyitaofuquan/yanggangnanxingqizhiwenhuajiaoben：jibuyinggairuanruo、kuqi（zheishinvhaizi、“niangniangqiang”zuodeshi），“zhenzhengdenanren”yongyuanbunengchengrenhaipa、chengrenfancuo，eryingjiangtongkushangxinzaochengdepaijiebuledeqianglieshenjingcijizhuanhuaweifenhenzheizhong“nanzihan”qingxu，qufakuang，qurangbierenku。“‘zhenzhengdenanren’bixukongzhizijishenshangbeirenkanbuqide‘nvxingde’yimian，bingqieyaojiejinquanlidiqukongzhitaren，”aisilezai《shenshengdehuanai》zhongxiedao，“yinci，nanhaizizaichengnianyishishangbixushouxianbiaomingtabupabiedenanren，erqienenggouzaixingshangzhuzainvren。zaizheigeguochengzhong，taxuehuileqiangzhuangnanrenjiaobendelingyigezhongyaoneirong：xingbushishuangfangdekuaile，gengbushiguanxin，ershibaolitongzhi。”

在《越轨：人为什么会干“坏事”》yishuzhong，meiguoshehuixuejiayalikesi·tier（alex thio）gaosuduzhe，fuquanzhiduiyixiezhangfudeyingxiangjiaoda，rangtamengengyoukenengqunvedaipeiou——tamenwangwangshineixieshenghuokundun，ganjueshiquleshengcunquanzhuanxiangconggengweiruoshidenvxingshenshanghuodekongzhiganhexinlipinghengderen。“jirantamenmeiyouqianheqitabaoguideziyuandengzheixiefuyoudenanrenjieyikongzhitamenqizidedongxi，qiongrenmenbianbeiposuzhubaoli，yicizuoweikongzhitamenqizideshouduan。zheikeyijieshiweishenmeyanjiujingchangbiaomingqiongrenhuozheshiyederenbiqitadenanrengengyoukenengoudatamendeqizi，tebieshineixieshouguyongdenvren，yinweitamendegongzuoxianshichuduizhangfuquanlihekongzhideyizhongweixie。”

yezhengshiyinweifuquanzhiqianbainianlaigenshendigudimisanyuzhenggeshehuizhizhong，dankaogetishouhaizhedeyongganfankangshiwufazhenzhengzuzhishibaozhede。ershixuyaogonggongliliangjieru，yongfalvshouduanyanchengshibaozhe，rangtamengengjiamingbai，tamendeshibaoxingweishiyouhouguode。tierzhichu，suiranjiatingbaolishigequanqiuxingwenti，danzaifazhanzhongguojiabimeiguoheqitafadaguojiafashengdepinlvgenggao。zheishiyinweizaifazhanzhongguojia，daduoshushouhaizheyiranwufaconggonggongjigouhuodebangzhu。erdeyiyushangshijixiabanyekaishidenvquanyundong，xifangfadaguojiadeshouhaizhegengrongyihuodezheixiebangzhu。

tuotuozaizuihouyiciyanzhongbaolixingweizhongjinggaoyuya“nigaowo，niyegaobuying”“nimeiyouzhengju”。zaizhenggeshijianbeipuguanghou，tashoudaolejuliu20tiandechufa。dandaoshenmeshihou，zhongguodejiatingbaolishihaizhenenggouwufazaishibaoshixiangzheiyangweixieshouhaizhe，bingqingsongdicongbaolifanzuizhongtuoshen；shouhaizhenenggouhaowugulvdizaidiyishijianxuanzelikai，erbushimomotunyankuguoni？

高以翔意外死亡事件：在“过劳时代”，有谁能够逃脱吗？

11yue27riwuhou12shi23fen，zhejiangweishi《zhuiwoba》jiemuzufabuguanfangtongbao，zhengshigaoyixiangzailuzhijiemuqijianturandaodi，zaijingguolianggeduoxiaoshideqiangjiuhou，yiyuanxuanbugaoyixiangxinyuanxingcusi。cishijulichushishijianyiguoquyue11gexiaoshi。youxianchangguanzhongbaoliaocheng，cong26rishangwu8dianbandao27rilingchen1dian45fen，《zhuiwoba》deluzhishijiandadao17gexiaoshi。zaishifaxianchang，huangjingyukenengshidiyigeyishidaogaoyixiangshentichuwentideren。jushuodangshigaoyixiangjisubenpaohoudaozhitilitouzhi，suihouzaixianchanghundao，dangongzuorenyuanqichuyiweishijiemuxiaoguoerbingweilijitingzhishexiang，yeweishangqianjinxingjishiqiangjiu。

zheiweinianjin35suidenanyirenyikuaidalanqiudejiankangyundongxingxiangzhucheng，jutaiwanmeitibaodao，qijingjigongsilaobanqiuxiuzhudezhigaoyixiangcusidexiaoxihouxiangdangnanguo，tabiaoshigaoyixiangzuijinyaopaiyibudianying，yinciqianzhenzicaizuowanjiankangjiancha，tadeshentizhuangkuangyizhidouhenhao，bingweiyoushenmexinzangfangmiandejibing。yezhengshiyinweiruci，tadeyiwaishenwanggengrangrengandaowubizhenjing。

shifazhihou，zhejiangweishideweijiyingjifangshiranggongzhongbuman，jiemubenshendeshezhiheanquanbaozhangyeyinqilezhuduozhiyi。《zhuiwoba》shizhejiangweishiyujinnian10yuetuichudeyidanghuwaizhenrenxiujiemu，jiemuhuijiangyirenzudui，zaichengshicbdyusurenjinxingjingjiyulejianjude“yinghejiaoliang”。zhidezhuyideshi，yumingxingyiqijingzhengdesurenshilaizigexinggeyedeyundongdaren、paokudaren。youbaodaozhichu，jiemudenandu“lianguojiajiyundongyuandounanyiyingfu”。zaijiemuqianqixuanchuanzhong，“jingjigan”beipinpintiji，zheiyiweizhejiemujiabinbixupinjinquanli。

界面新闻刊发的深度报道《演员高以翔录节目身故，竞技类综艺为何这么拼命？》zhichu，jinnianlaishiwaijingjileijiemuyuelaiyueduo，zhengduozheguanzhongyouxiandezhuyili。weilezhuiqiugaoshoushilv，jiemuwangwanghuixuanzetishengyouxinandu，yifangmianrangyirencanyugengjiliedejingzheng，lingyifangmianbajiduanqingkuangxiayirendelinchangfanyingzuoweimaidianxiyinguanzhong。ji《benpaobaxiongdi》zhihou，“yiren+huwaijingji+zhenrenxiu”yijingchengweizhejiangweishizhizuozongyijiemudegudingtaolu，zheiyeweiqidailailejigaodeshoushilvheguanmingzanzhushouru。dansuizhemingxingshenghuoguanchaleizongyihemanzongyiyuelaiyueshouhuanying，jingjileijiemuzhujianliushileguyouguanzhongqun，zhinengtuichugengjiajingxiancijidexinjiemulaiduoyanqiu。

baodaorenwei，《zhuiwoba》shizhejiangweishideyigehunzhao。guanzhongzhenzhengxihuandebuzhishiciji，ershimingxingjiabinzhenshidefanyinghexuanze，danzheizhongzhenshiganbuyidingyaokaoposhimingxingdadaotilijixianlaihuode。“zaiquanxindezongyishengtaiqunli，mianduihulianwangshipinpingtaihelaopaiduishouweishimendeweizhuidujie，zhejiangweishituichuzheidangjiemu，jiwujingzhengliyemeiyouyingxiangli，zuihouqueyizheizhongwanquanyiwaidefangshiyinbaoleyulun。”

baodaohaizhichu，aoyeluzhishiguoneizongyiyigepubiancunzaidewenti。zaijiemianwenyujizhedejinglizhong，xuduojiemudoushibangwanhuowanshangkailu，lingchenyiliangdianshenzhiqingchenqibadiancaishougong。luzhiqijian，conggongzuorenyuan、guanzhongdaojiabindoubixuyizhibaochijingshenbaomandezhuangtai，yexianyouxiuxishijian。zhengshizaizheiyangdegaoyagongzuohuanjingxia，xuduobaitianbenlainenggouzuohaodeanquanbaozhangchuxiansongxie，xuduojinglichongpeishinenggouwanchengdexiangmuhedongzuoyeyouleshiwudekeneng。zhengshizaizheiyangdedabeijingxia，chuxianlegaoyixiangzheiyangdeshigu。

mingzhiluzhizongyijiemudezhongzhongxinkuhebuhelidegongzuoanpai，mingxingmenweihebufankang？yupingrenhuangtongtongzaizhuanwenrenwei，zheishiyulexingyejingzhengjilie、mingxingmianlinjudashengcunyalideguanxi。yanyiquanshijishangjiushiyi“xuehangongchang”demoshiyunxingde：yirenshishimianlin“huawubairihong”deyali，zhiyouchenzijihaizailiuliangqipinmingpuguangzhuanqian；yingshijigou、yanyijigoujiqibeihoudezibenweilezaimingxingduanzandehongliqineizhuandaogengduodeqian，buduanyazhayiren，yaoqiutamenzaijinkenengduandeshijianlichuchanjinkenengduodechanpin。yigegengzhongyaodeyuanyinshi，toubuziyuanjingzhengdejihuitaijilietainande，zaijudadeliyihejingzhengmianqian，mingxingmenchule“yimingxiangbo”，biewuxuanze。

gaoyixiangyiwaiqushihou，yiweiwangyouzaiweiboshangfawengankaicheng，zijijiuzainingbocbdgongzuo，suozaidebangonglouzaijiemujingtoulishidenghuotongmingdemeiliyejing，ranershenchuqizhongdeshixuxuduoduojiabandaoshenyedebailing。zaibangongshilidetamenhezaibangongshiwaifenlibenpaodegaoyixiang，shijishangbingwuqubie。huoxu《zhuiwoba》daoyanluhaoshuoguodeyijuhuazuinengfanyingzheizhongbianbuquanshehuideshengcunzhuangtaihejiazhiquxiang：“qishi，womenderenshengyizhidouzaizhuizhuhebenpaozhong。jiemuzhongshezhidezhuangzhi，tixianchucanyuzheyudaokunnanshideyizhongjingshen，niyaozouchuzheigezhuangzhi，daoxiayigezhuangzhi，yudaokunnandiedaole，shuaixiaqule，danshihaiyaopaqilai，jixuzaiwangqianpao，nibupao，jiuhuibeihoumianderen‘gandiao’，zheijiushiwomendeshehui，womenderensheng。”

yuanyinguojiaxinxueguanzhongxintongjishujuzhichu，zhongguomeinianxinyuanxingcusizheyida55wanren，yinweijiabanzaochengcusiderenqunzaizhunianzengjia，bingyuelaiyueduodichaozhenianqingquntimanyan。zhongguoshekeyuandeyixiangdiaochaxianshi，2017nianzhongguorenmeitianpingjunxiuxianshijianjinwei2.27xiaoshi，zheiyishuzizaimeiguo、deguodengguojiawei5xiaoshi。yinweigongzuoyaliguodaerdaozhideyiyuzhenghezishalvyechengzhunianshangshengdequshi。

《qipashuo》diliujizhongchuxianguozheiyangyigebianti：mianduizijiganxingqudegongzuo996，shifouyinggaiheta886。daoshiluozhenyudeguandianshi：“nihaizhenyiweigongzuoheshenghuohainengfenkaini？fangniwudianhuijiayoushenmeyong，nihaibushiyaozaiweixinshanggongzuo，zheijiushiwomenzheidairendeming！”wenzhangzhichu，zheizhongjiangbuhelixianshihelihuadelundiaolingrenxinjing，tayerangrenxiangqishangshijiqibashiniandairibenshengxingdejiabanwenhua——jijiangjiabanshizuoyounengli、shouguzhuzhongyongdebiaoxian。“guolaogongzuodebeihourangrenjuedekepazhichubushi‘youmeiyouxingqubenshen’，ershizaigaodujingzhengdehuanjingli，getidexuanzeshifenyouxian……shengzaiqizhongderenmenbeixinao、beiguoxie，bingbeiporentonglezheitiaobuchengwendeguize，zheicaishiwomenzhenzhenggaijingtide。”

zhongguoshidulaodongyanjiuhuihuizhang、shoudoujingjimaoyidaxuejiaoshouyangheqinghetadetuanduijingguoduoxiangdiaoyanfaxian，zhongguozhishiyuangongmeizhougongzuochaoguo50xiaoshiderenchaoguo30%，chaoguo60gexiaoshiderenzhanjin10%。yangheqingzaishizhichu，gengduodelaodongnengchuangzaogengduodejiazhiqishishiyigewuqu，laodongtouruyujiazhizengzhangdeguanxiqishicunzailinjiedian，dangchaoguolinjiedianhou，guolaochengduyueyanzhong，jingjisunshiyueda。tazai2015niandeyixiangyanjiuzhongfaxian，zhongguoyouyuguolaozaochengdesunshifeichanggao。

duiyu“guolao”xianxiangshifounenghuanjie，yangheqingchijiaoweibeiguandetaidu：“congweilaijiniandeduanqikan，worenweibudakenenghuanjie，danshiyebuhuiyanzhongehua。yinweiwomeiyoukandaotuidonghuanjiehuozheyanzhongehuadeliliangchuxian。congyiershiniandeduanzhongqikaolv，wozechibijiaozhongxingdetaidu。yuanyinzaiyu，yingxiangguolaodeyinsutaiduotaifuza，zheixieyinsuweilaihuiruhebianhuaxianzainanyibawo。zhurujishufazhanfangmian，aiduilaodongdetidai，jiqirenduilaodongdetidai，cengchubuqiongdegaoxinjishudefazhanduilaodongdetidaidengdenghuishishenmeyangzi，huichanshengshenmeyangdehouguo，budeerzhi。congshehuifazhanlaikan，falv、zhengce、shichang、linian、yishidengdebianhuaduiyuguolaodeyingxiangyewufabawo。”